be nosy

I would've thought, “Oh, well, The Ghoul will never wear sunglasses. You can't be nosy.”

Sayers had her own insightful elderly “spinster,” Katherine Climpson, employed by Wimsey exactly because no one thought it odd that an older woman would be nosy.

Anya was ready to back away from the door when Kin’s voice pierced the heat: “Ye don’t have to spy from the door, girl. Come in if yer gonna be nosy.”

In a statement excerpted in the show’s wall text, the Finnish-born Konttinen notes that her foreignness meant “I could be nosy, and be forgiven.”

She could just be nosy, but she might also be asking out of genuine concern.