ungrudging

It is, she writes, “an ungrudging obsession,” sometimes requiring attempt after attempt after attempt — but not without its pleasures.

Not perfect alignment, obviously, but alignment on what you deem essential, plus ungrudging respect for each other’s differences and right to have them, plus deep investment in your mutual happiness.

See if he’ll give you one month of ungrudging effort to appreciate what you serve — beyond which you’ll leave him alone to his slop, without so much as an eye-roll.

Doing that is what creates sentences like, “I agreed to this but mentioned we would love if they come and spend time with us,” in which alluded-to emotional agendas lurk under the ungrudging appearance of grudgingly granting a wish.

So you both owe each other ungrudging acknowledgment of each other’s existential concerns.