ver

Ver is a pronoun that serves the same grammatical function as him or her, except that it’s gender-neutral. Ver is typically used by people who identify as nonbinary or genderqueer, meaning that their gender identify falls outside of the strict binary of only male or only female.

For those who identify in one of these ways and who are deciding which pronouns to use, there are a lot of options.

Some pronouns similar to ver include xem, xim, xir, zan, and zhem, among others.  The most commonly used is nonbinary them.

However, it should be noted that these shouldn’t be considered synonyms of ver in the sense that they are interchangeable when referring to the same person—the pronouns the person has specified are the ones that should be used.

Ver is often used as part of the ve/ver/vis set of pronouns, but it may be used as part of other, similar sets.

In the next section, we’ll break down some of the nonbinary pronoun sets that people use.

First and foremost: if someone says they use ver as one of their pronouns, that’s what you should use when referring to them. Some people might use a mix of pronouns, such as ver and them, in which case you can use either one, or both at different times.

There are a lot of different nonbinary pronouns, and it can seem overwhelming. To help, here is a chart of some (not all) nonbinary pronouns, along with the grammatical function of each one to help you understand how they’re used (and conjugated).

You can plug each set into this sentence to see how each pronoun is used:

[Column 1 subject form] told me to text [column 2 object form], but I don’t have [column 3 possessive form] number. 

In many (but not all) cases, the possessive pronoun form (the one equivalent to theirs, as in That book is theirs) is simply formed by adding -s to the possessive adjective form (the one that’s equivalent to their). Sometimes, it’s the same as the possessive adjective form, as in That is vis book and That book is vis. The reflexive form (the one equivalent to themself) is often formed by simply adding -self to the object form (the one that’s equivalent to them): verself.

Ver is a personal pronoun. It is singular.

But before we get too grammatical, it should be noted that ver is what’s called a neopronoun. A neopronoun is a gender-neutral pronoun that has been recently coined to fill the lack of gender-neutral options in English (not all gender-neutral pronouns are neopronouns—singular they and them have been used for a long time).

Grammatically speaking, ver is categorized as a third person pronoun (like he, she, him, her, and them), meaning that it’s used to refer to anyone other than the person doing the addressing (first person) or the ones being addressed (second person).

Ver is an objective pronoun, meaning that it’s generally used as an object—the one on the receiving end of some action—as opposed to the one doing the action. The commonly used nominative (subject) form of ver is ve and xie, as in Ve asked me to drive ver home. 

For more, check out our guide to gender-neutral pronouns.

And our guide to gender-neutral language.